So there is this local business that has a double sign hanging on their building and on each side they put pithy sayings that are supposed to make you think about how you are treating yourself and others or the world in general. Sometimes they are religious and sometimes not. Sometimes they come out of a book and sometimes people will rent the sign to congratulate someone. The other day I noticed that one of the sayings were "Use kind words, they are hard to resent" or somewhere along those lines.
It made me think. I work very hard at being nice to people (which I say very often, I know, but I can't seem to make enough of a point there) and I know that other people can be kind as well. A lot of times I notice that when I do say nice or kind things to people who I really do actually like they give me these 'yeah whatever' remarks back. It's hard for me to be nice to people I would rather be hitting in the face with a 2x4 so I generally get a little miffed if someone I actually like can't just say 'oh gee thanks' or 'how nice of you to notice' or whatever appropriate response there happens to be.
This sort of thing happens more and more often and then I realized that to people I dislike I do that to. So what am I supposed to think? Do the people I like and don't have a hard time being complimentary to dislike me when they put off the comments I say in a way that sounds as if they are putting themselves down?
Other days I wonder if those of us who simply hate people are another species entirely and just don't know it. That is all. Go forth and ponder the kind words you say and receive, grasshoppers.